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This time around, I have chosen a subject outside my usual scope of work.
The last couple of months has been a period of big challenges for my 4-year-old daughter due to her age and the developmental stage, she is currently in.
The latest one is grasping the concept of death, which is often a fear that children between the ages of 4-8 are facing heavily. My daughter and I have touched on the subject over the last 1,5 years as she lost her much beloved cat, but it was not till the last week we faced the really difficult conversation. One of my daughter’s little friends in her kindy-room lost her mum to cancer. I chose not to bring it up with my daughter as my heart was breaking for this little girl, thinking about all these kids who would ask her about her mum.
However, my daughter came home one afternoon and mentioned that her friend had told her that her mum had died. I knew in that moment, we had to talk about it. I had a split-second to overcome that overwhelming feeling of ‘how do I do this? How honest do I need to be? What is the state of mind that I would like her to walk away with etc.?
I thought, we had covered the most difficult part of the conversation, when she asked me: “Are you going to die too, mummy?” An unbelievable sense of unease took over and I tried to remain calm and clear headed. I felt, I was drowning inside. We were having this conversation because I needed to inform, reassure and calm my daughter’s fear, however, in that moment I was thinking: “amongst many things, I am sitting here telling my daughter that mummy will not die for many many years…..but we just don’t know what tomorrow brings”
Those difficult conversations with our kids are inevitable, so how do we prepare ourselves for them? I believe, knowledge is power and after that conversation, I realised that it was time for me to re-visit the development stages of a child. They are incredibly important – especially when it comes to how we, in the best possible way handle and communicate with our children, when it comes to their fears and anxiety. Ultimately, the way we support, love, and nourish our children will have a tremendous effect on their physical, social, mental, and emotional resilience later in life.
I have enclosed links to websites, I find very informative about your child’s developmental stages. Hope they can assist you too.
1. Anxiety and Fear in Children:
2. Theories of Child Development Stages:
3. Child development: (great website – includes info re: teens and adult also)
4. Child development stages:
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